Going 50/50 or Dutch in a 'no strings attached, you pay for yours and I'll pay for mine' coffee is the 5050 Protocol behind 5050cafefriends. We believe that when each person pays for their own coffee, that this places both parties on an equal footing. By creating a level playing field for all individuals meeting in this manner, we believe that we are enabling gender equity which leads to gender equality. The word 'gender' as used here, refers to all genders including men, women and non-binary people.
- Please bear in mind that going 50/50 in a 'no strings attached coffee' is only our recommendation. You can message and arrange to meet with someone in any manner you like. However we do not take any responsibility for the conduct or behaviour of anyone registered on the 5050cafefriends website at a first meeting and also recommend that you do not drink alcohol during the first meeting. For safety reasons, we also advise that if you choose to meet up again, that you should arrange this meeting via the 5050cafefriends website, this takes away the need to give out any personal details.
Introducing yourself is a great way to break the ice. There’s no third party (like a friend) to introduce you when you’re online, it’s just 'you' and 'them,' so make sure you get off to a great start. Firstly, offer your name (first name only), your area or region and what you do for work. Then make sure to take an interest in them by reading their profile or watching their vlog and mentioning a few of their hobbies or interests. People with the same interests have something in common and quickly develop a rapport.
Question: But isn't introducing yourself a little old-fashioned?
Answer: No. If you don't introduce yourself you'll remain a stranger.
Your Intro might go something like this: 'Hi, I'm Ange from Auckland invite me for coffee.'
You can introduce yourself by tapping the Intro icon located in the panel below every profile photo.
It's what the 5050 (fifty-fifty) in 5050 Coffee is all about. We're making gender equality a reality by getting relationships off to an equitable start. By paying for your own cup of coffee, (or going 50/50) you are meeting someone on an equal 'no strings attached' basis and are therefore under no further obligation to that person whatsoever and can leave when you want. Everyone who registers at 5050 must agree to the underlying principle of 5050 and gender equality in order to join.
Question: But I don’t get it. If someone invites you for coffee shouldn’t they have to pay?
Answer: No. You've both agreed to the 5050 principle in order to join. When someone sends you a coffee invite, all they’re really saying is: I’d just like to meet you in a no strings attached way.
By paying for your own coffee, you’re meeting someone on your own terms and you’re meeting them because you want to. It also places you under no obligation whatsoever to anyone that you meet.
The message with your 5050 Coffee invite might go something like this: 'Hi, there's a great cafe just around the corner from where we work. Would you like to meet there?'
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You can send an invite for 5050 Coffee by tapping the Coffee Cup icon located below every profile photo.
Vlogs don't lie. A photo can be of anyone. If you want to be sure of who you are meeting, then view their vlog. If they don't have one - request they upload one. We recommend that you always view someone's vlog before you meet them.
- Hint - If you feel that your vlog is unflattering, then use a selfie stick to video your vlog. You’ll feel more comfortable, confident and in control of how your vlog appears.
Question: What's vlog?
Answer: Its someone's video-log-intro. Similar to a selfie but a video and much more difficult to fake.
You might say something like this in your vlog: 'Hi, I'm Suzie from Sandringham invite me for coffee.’
You can view vlogs by tapping the Vlog icon located below every profile photo.
At 5050 we care about who you meet and how you meet them. That's why we recommend that everyone upload a vlog and that way the will automatically be 5050 Verified. Having a vlog to view gives a stronger indication that someone is more likely to be who they claim to be. All vlogs are ranked for non-human images, nudity and children before being viewable.
Question: So how can I become 5050 Verified?
Answer: The 5050 Verified badge will appear on your profile photo when you have a vlog uploaded.
The 5050 Verified Badge appears on someone's profile photo when they have a vlog present.